Your Teen Has Low Self Esteem by perfect perception

Teens have fragile egos and can sometimes be led or misled quite easily, especially when low self-esteem is involved. It can be a huge bump in your kids road and cause some attitudes and actions that you just don't understand. As a matter of fact, you may be surprised at what you find, if you were to find out what makes some of these teens so darn popular. Just what do they do when you're not there?

Think about it for a minute. They go to school all day. Do you REALLY know who ALL of their friends are? And, of the ones you do know, what kinds of personalities do they have? What kinds of things do they discuss? goals? college? It's a given that they will talk about boys/girls but is that all they talk about?

Positive self-esteem. is very important and plays a tremendous role in teen attitude and disposition. I realize that children are products of their environment but for teens whose parents stress higher education and successful futures there is a level of balance that some cannot reach when attempting to keep their parents teachings and gain popularity with fellow peers and self-esteem is one of the main reasons why.

Let's face it, our teens self-esteem is widely influenced by their peers, sometime more than at home. When they hit puberty, they tend to care about the "other kids" opinions than their mom or dads. As a matter of fact, you notice the change. There are usually signs that they are changing, sometimes subtle, but signs nonetheless and if you pay attention to your kid, you WILL know them! So pay attention to your teens attitude, phone and in person conversations, and internet personality and connections.

You will not only keep yourself in the know where your teen and his or her self-esteem level is concerned but you will also see how he or she portrays that self-esteem when not in your presence. The goal is to get to know your child better not be judgmental as soon as you see, read, or hear something you don't like. Be careful not to pass judgment. You may be wrong in your thinking completely and not only lose trust but damage your relationship with your child!!!

An example of this is: My neice is young (16) and she, like a lot of teen girls I know, likes to dress a little sexy and her mother thinks it too adult for 16. Point taken but we're from Florida, so I do not understand how she forgot that we used to want to dress just as sexy and wear just as little, maybe not at 16 but at 19. That's only a three year difference and we were NOT loose no matter what people may have thought.

That being said, my neice was thought to be loose by a couple of peers and her brothers. They passed judgment, saying she was uninterested in a successful future because she dressed the way she does and does not associate with the best of people, so it seemed. She shut down on them all and they're relationship was damaged for about 6 months.

None of this negativity came from me, mind you. She knows that I have faith in her. They need that. Somebody has got to be in their corner, no matter what. Heck, I know her attitude because I had her attitude. I think she is destined to do something big because she has attitude and HIGH self-esteem despite her sibblings and others negative comments.

Well, I was right about her! She is definitely going places. Not only is she an honor roll student at the local high school. But she is already scouting and applying to colleges. Destined to be a doctor and own her own practice!!! Her brother have changed their attitide some, not completely because they don't like how she dresses, but are on her team now and backing her in her studies and filling out applications.

Watch out so as not to judge negatively so that you do not add crack a brick in your teens fragile being. Remember when you were young. A teens self-esteem is very fragile and the amount of support they have is important, not all of them are so strong as to ignore negativity and/or be fuelded by it. A lot of them need to know that there are others in their corner.

Low self-esteem, should not exist in your household as long as you can help it.

This is my opinion but has worked for me with my children, neices and cousins.

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