What's wrong with it?

matherese 14 months ago

I like the topic very interesting

charnv48 8 months ago

think people try extremely hard to not use common sense. Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. Racism is live and well. I have never had a problem meeting any a man no matter his race. I am blake female who would be considered overweight but the white cultural standards. I gew up in San Francisco and have dated nearly every race. In my child baring years I chose to have 100% black children which lead me to marry a black man. I am now divorced and I am back to dating men who are interested in dating me. What I find halarious is everytime I log in to a interracial dating site there are more black men there than any other race, like 2/1. Then those same black men message me. I can’t help but to think doesn’t that defeat the purpose of going to a interracial dating website.

charnv48 8 months ago

Some males on the DL, have probably spent the majority of their lives being on the DL, choosing occupations and situations that would allow him to be in a mostly male environment. The male I dated was retired from the military and is now a police officer. He easily plays the role of being a Heterosexual MAN, very good at the art of deception. When he saw women with big breast or in a short skirt, he responded the way men normally do, he would go into a trance-like state and become speechless. Typical male behavior, he was protective of me and jealous in nature, made excuses for not giving me a long-term commitment (of course, now I get it). One day, well into our 5-year relationship, we both left the house headed to work in our separate cars, within minutes he called me on the phone and asked me if I could be with a bi-sexual man. Okay, so 5-years into the relationship of having unprotected sex, and now he decides to be honest and have open dialogue, and come out to me, WHAT!!!!. I could hear it in his voice, he was nervous and vulnerable, not wanting the situation to turn ugly. He seemed to want my acceptance, as though we could continue this hot romance, as if nothing had changed. I was horrified. He literally said, "Men have always done it", as if his statement was meant to sooth me and breathe normalcy into the conversation. He knew I loved him, respected him, trusted him. How very absurd, to think it was at all possible I would be okay with sexing a homosexual. He actually asked me if my reluctance was based on not knowing when/whether he was hanging out with the boys verses hanging out with his boy. He tried to continue-on with the relationship. I did not want to crush him for being a homosexual. BUT…Reality check, straight women want a loving relationship with a straight man, (bi-sexual/ down-low means to engage in homosexual sex). To deceive, to withhold critical information, to deny me the opportunity to make an informed decision about my own health and welfare suggests far more than just his own selfishness. I believe this is an act of evilness, I kept thinking this guy was really lucifer, and at any moment his horns would pop-out and he would start laughing a loud sinister laugh, the world around me would burst into flames and I would wake up in HELL. I kept asking him, why didn't he tell me when we first started dating, and he hinted at this was my fault for not picking-up on it. I recall him saying asking how can I love him when I only know half of me, and he said sometimes he liked to hang out with the fellas, and he ran across a buddy, and having sex with a male simply doesn't interest him and he loved my p@@@y. He would say give me some, woman and out of the blue he would say it is great coming home to me and girl you make me more than happy, and he often said no one, really listen, no one can make me feel like you do. NEWS FLASH, he left out the part of him being a homosexual. People hide things about themselves that they are ashamed or embarrassed of. He seemed ashamed, he kept saying he was not a homosexual (Homosexual = sex with another of the same sex).

I learned that males on the DL choose to hide because they-themselves are ashamed, they-themselves believe their sexual behavior is without honor, shameful, demeaning, unsavory, unmanly, unnatural, filled with the fear of being exposed, and rejected, SELF-HATRED. They will do ANYTHING, including date/live-with/marry women, in order to hide their homosexuality. I learned that males on the downlow look and behave like all the other Brothas we see every day. However, instead of secretly sleeping with your girlfriends behind your back, the DL Brotha is secretly sleeping with his guy friends. I asked myself were there any hints along the way and the answer is yes. I knew he wasn't being 100% honest all the time, sometimes he would be vague about where he was or who he was with, which normally means there is a woman on the side. I did the typical line of questions and he would laugh and say "you are crazy, what woman". I would have never-ever guessed this strong dominant brotha was capable of sexing another male.

Let's keep it real, my idea of a romantic dinner does not involve food that’s in contact with fecal matter, even if you wash it, I don't want to eat it, No Thank You! My ideal of romance does not include being exposed to fecal matter. This does not mean I harbor anything against homosexuals, everybody has the right to make their own personal choices. DL means you purposely deny me my right to make a personal choice.

There is a lot of propaganda about the black community not accepting homosexuality. The FIRST step is Bi/Homosexual males must accept themselves. The idea that down-low males want to be viewed as heterosexual men that have sex with other males, is preposterous and self-hatred for being Bi/homosexual. You hide the real you and in the same breath asks society to accept you……GOOD LUCK WITH THAT.